Are There Things You Can Do To Increase Your Sex Drive?

by | Relational/Couples Counseling, Sex Therapy

Having a different sex drive from your partner isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Everyone is different, and if your drive is lower, that’s typically not a problem. It doesn’t mean there’s something “wrong” with you or even that you need to change. 

However, if you want to increase your sex drive, there are certainly things you can do. 

Most importantly, make sure any decisions you make are for your own personal well-being, and not because of your relationship or because you’ve started comparing yourself to anyone else. 

With that in mind, let’s cover a few healthy and effective ways you can increase your sex drive and find more satisfaction in your physical relationship because of it. 

Get Active

You’ll find that many self-care activities can actually help when it comes to increasing your sex drive. One of the best ways to experience that kind of “jump start” is by exercising more often. 

Exercise can give you more energy, boost your stamina, and help with your body image and self-esteem. It’s also a natural mood booster. You might find that you’re more excited to get close with your partner, and if mental health struggles like depression have been holding you back, exercise can help. 

Change Your Diet

In addition to regular exercise, consider the old “you are what you eat” mentality to boost your sex drive naturally. 

There’s no miracle food or ideal diet that will completely change your sex drive. However, foods with certain vitamins and essential nutrients can increase blood flow to the genitals and may increase your drive. Foods like chocolate can actually help to boost levels of serotonin in your brain, making you feel more relaxed, happier, and even more interested in sex. 

There’s a reason why so many foods are considered “aphrodisiacs.” Don’t be afraid to do your research on some of your favorite foods and ingredients. You might find that the nutrients they provide are essential for stamina, blood flow, and mood regulation, which can all help with your sex drive. 

Stress Less

One of the biggest contributors to a low sex drive is high stress. Not only can stress preoccupy your mind, but it can take a toll on your physical and mental health, leading to issues like anxiety or depression.

If your mental well-being isn’t where it should be, you’re likely not going to have a healthy, active sex drive. In fact, sex probably won’t even be on your mind because too many other things are causing you to worry or feel hopeless. 

Get to the Bottom of It

If the suggestions above don’t work, you might want to consider talking to someone about your low sex drive. First, talk to your doctor. It’s always important to rule out any underlying medical issues that could be affecting you more than you realize. 

If there aren’t any physical health problems to address, consider focusing on your mental health. Some people struggle with low sex drives because of anxiety, depression, or other underlying issues they might not even be aware of. You might even be having trouble with your sex drive because of negative past experiences. Getting to the underlying cause of those issues can, in turn, help to improve your sex drive. 

Having a low sex drive doesn’t necessarily mean there’s anything wrong. But, if it’s impacting other areas of your life or you believe it’s being triggered by something problematic, it’s worth it to get the help you deserve. 

Contact Valued Living Therapy for more information or to set up an appointment soon. If you’re concerned that your low sex drive might be connected to a deeper mental health issue, we’ll work through it together.

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